Make a Plan. Make a Change.

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Planning! Some people love to plan, and I am one of those people. I love to plan, to think about things before hand and leave out all the guesswork and stress that often accompanies me when I’m unprepared. And while most of us know about planning trips, planning weddings and parties, and the other day to day activities we encounter, do we ever think about planning for our lives?

Have you ever considered taking some time to think hard about who you are, where you are and where you are heading? Believe me, this can be a difficult undertaking and can even be scary at times as we navigate relationships and important decisions, but the benefit of thinking about your actions and decisions beforehand has been invaluable in my own life and could benefit you as well!

Sometimes it’s the hard things in life that, once we do them, bring us the most reward. So what do you need to “plan” this week or this month? What areas of your life are you feeling lost, stressed, or discouraged in? What about the area of relationships and dating?  Have you ever thought about relying on something other than your feelings to navigate your romantic relationships? Maybe now is the perfect time to start!

The relationships that we engage in and our decisions regarding issues like sex within those relationships are some of the most personal and life altering decisions we can make! It only makes sense to think carefully about them, to ask for advice, to find good answers to your questions and concerns, and to make some decisions beforehand about how your relationship will operate.

Some of the plans that me and my friends at TurnTable have in regards to relationships is a decision to be abstinent. We’ve decided that for our romantic relationships before we are married, sex is going to be one of those decisions we say no to. Don’t be afraid to take a stand, to live with intention, and to say yes to waiting. The decisions made for your future well-being will always be ones you regret the least!

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What You Need To Know about Trichomoniasis…

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Here’s the Who, What, When and Why low down on this STI

Who: Every year, nearly 9 million people under the age of 25 get a new STI (sexually transmitted infection). One of these infections is trichomoniasis. If you’ve had sex, you could have an STI.

What: Trichomoniasis is a very common STI. It is caused by a parasite. You get it from having sex with an infected person.

When: When you have sex with an infected person you are at risk of getting trichomoniasis. Although most infected people have no obvious symptoms, they can still pass on trichomoniasis. However some people do have symptoms, if you have symptoms they could include itching or a discharge from the penis or vagina, a burning sensation while urinating, and pain during sex.

Why: Why get checked for trichomoniasis? One reason is that using a condom does not mean you are 100% safe. If you always use condoms for vaginal sex, you may reduce your chance for getting trichomoniasis, however how much your chance is reduced is not known. Trichomoniasis can be treated with antibiotics. Both you and your partner must be treated.  If you don’t know you’re infected, you won’t be looking for treatment. If you have had sex, get checked. Don’t put it off.

Avoid sexual activity if you are single. Why choose a lifestyle of abstinence? To avoid being infected with trichomoniasis and other STI’s of course. Abstinence from sexual intercourse is the only certain way to avoid being infected. If you have had sex, do yourself a favor and get checked out!

 Here at Care Net Frederick we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

*Call to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page.

The Medical Institute (2007). Trichomoniasis, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.
To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org.

Are You Up For The Challenge?

Recently, I participated in a small, community health fair at a local middle school and we had the opportunity to ask questions to the kids who came by about relationships and sex. The kids were interested in the questions and they (usually) gave thoughtful answers. One question that was asked led to a very revealing answer; “Do you think it is possible to NOT have sex before you are married?” They were not prepared for this question. The common reaction was one of shock, “Uh…it’s possible I guess, but…I mean, it’s not really realistic.”

Their reaction made me wonder if these kids had ever actually considered that not having sex of any kind (abstinence) until marriage is an achievable option for their own life or if they instead view sex as an expectation in a relationship. Sure, they’ll list out the reasons to avoid sex and they’ll immediately answer that abstinence is the only way to be sure that you won’t get pregnant or become infected with an STD (they learned all that in their sex education class) but do they realize that this is something actually possible?

Guess what. It is possible! I, for one (now in my twenties), can say that I have never had sex and I have chosen not to until I am married. I’m determined to not let the expectations of the world pressure me into changing my decision. My choice is one that I believe is best for me (now and later on) and a decision that honors my future husband and children as well as God. Living a life of sexual purity by choosing abstinence has taught me strength and patience and has spared me from the physical risks of STD’s and the emotional turmoil that can come with having a relationship that involves sex.

I’m not the only person who has made this choice of abstinence until marriage. I know hundreds of people who can say the very same thing as I have with a smile on their face. Some of these friends have actually had sex before, but they have decided to start anew because they know that it’s not too late to turn around and start living a life of abstinence from here on out—all is not lost! No one said that this is an easy choice—it’s a real challenge and it takes courage—but it’s a challenge that we each accepted since we think that sexual purity is a worthwhile goal.

Do you think you can consider joining us in our choice to stand up against the expectations of the world around us that pressures us to have sex and instead choose abstinence until marriage as a decision for your own life? If you want this, remember that you are not alone. We can do this together!

So if you have never had sex, let me encourage you to stay true to that commitment. If you are sexually active and are reconsidering this choice, you can do it starting today! Are you up for the challenge? Remember you are not alone-we’re here for you, contact the TurnTable group through our website for support.

What You Need To Know about Gonorrhea…

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Here’s the Who, What, When and Why low down on this STD

Who: Every year, almost 4 million American teenagers get an STD. If you’ve had sex, you could be infected with one or more STDs, including gonorrhea. Some STDs cause symptoms. Others don’t. You could have one now and not even know it. Just because you don’t know you’re infected doesn’t mean you aren’t being affected.

What: Gonorrhea is the second most common bacterial sexually transmitted disease (STD). Women and men can both get gonorrhea by having sex (vaginal, anal or oral sex) with an infected person.

When: You can pass gonorrhea to every person you have sex with, even without symptoms.

Why: Why get checked for gonorrhea? It is important to get checked because most infected people (especially infected women) don’t have symptoms, so they can’t tell. When people with gonorrhea do have symptoms, they might experience pain when going to the bathroom or a discharge from the penis or vagina. So don’t put getting checked out off! Why choose abstinence? To avoid being infected with gonorrhea and other STD’s of course. Abstinence from sexual intercourse is the only certain way to avoid being infected. Already had sex? Do yourself a favor and get checked out!

 

Here at Care Net Frederick we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

*Call to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page.

 

 

 

The Medical Institute (2008). Gonorrhea, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org.

How do you feel when you hear the word abortion?

Abortion is one of those topics that people debate but seldom get to the real feelings that result from abortion. If you have had an abortion you may know all too well what I mean. Abortion is legal and society tells us we have a choice. It’s our right. However it is seldom as easy or cut and dry as society makes it out to be.

Here are some questions to ask yourself if you have had an abortion:

*Did your life change after your abortion?

*Do you get uncomfortable or have very strong feelings when people discuss abortion?

*Have you started making unhealthy social choices?

*Has your relationship with men changed?

*Has your relationship with God changed?

*Do you regret your abortion?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, you owe it to yourself to talk with someone about Post-Abortion Care to find out more about it and see if it would be right for you. If you have or are starting to have confusing feelings and/or regrets of your abortion(s), then Post-Abortion Care may be right for you.

Now you have the right to choose again, the right to choose healing!

Care Net Frederick offers Post-Abortion Care in a group setting, Yahweh’s Grace, or in an individual setting. Yahweh’s Grace is not run by professional counselors and is not intended as a substitute for professional counseling. However, we are trained volunteers who wish to bring women together in compassion and love, giving them a safe place to discuss their feelings about their abortion and walk them through the healing process.

If you would like more information about our Post-Abortion Care or want to start the healing process, you can contact us at 301-662-5300 or email us through the contact page of our website carenetfrederick.org.

What You Need To Know about Chlamydia…

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Here’s the Who, What, Where, When and Why low down on this STD

Who: Every year, almost 4 million American teenagers get an STD (Sexually transmitted disease). If you’ve had sex, you could be infected with one or more STD’s, including chlamydia. Both men and women -particularly young men and women can get chlamydia.

What: Chlamydia is the most common bacterial STD. Most infected people, especially women, don’t have symptoms, so they can’t tell they are infected. People get infected by having sexual intercourse.

Where & When: Where and when you are having sex does not matter. If you are having sex, even without symptoms, you can pass chlamydia to every person you have sex with. When people with chlamydia do have symptoms, the symptoms may include pain when going to the bathroom or a “discharge” coming from the penis or vagina.

Why: Why get checked for chlamydia? Chlamydia can be treated with antibiotics. But if you don’t know you’re infected, you won’t be looking for treatment. If you have had sex, get checked. Don’t put it off. If treatment is delayed, infected women can get a pelvic inflammatory disease (a serious complication of chlamydia). PID causes problems now (abdominal pain) and problems later (difficulty getting pregnant or infertility). Why choose abstinence? To avoid being infected with chlamydia and other STD’s of course. Abstinence from sexual intercourse is the only certain way to avoid being infected. If you haven’t had sex, your chances of getting chlamydia are small. Already had sex? Do yourself a favor and get checked out!

 

Here at Care Net Frederick we offer FREE and confidential STD/STI testing!

*Call to set up your free appointment at 301-662-5300 or email us via our website contact page.

 

 

 

 

 

The Medical Institute (2008). Chlamydia, get your facts straight [Pamphlet]. (N.P.) Austin, TX.

To see The Medical Institute references, view or purchase this pamphlet, please visit www.medinstitute.org.

What’s Up With Waiting?

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One of the most overlooked words in the English language is the word “wait”. Why is it so hard to wait? Well for starters, waiting has the unspoken meaning and reputation of boredom and no action. This could not be further from the truth. Waiting for something takes action and self-control.

Sometimes waiting can be a form of proving yourself and your dedication to what you are striving to become or achieve. Take a job for example. Countless, tedious hours of schooling, and then even more hours of working jobs that barely pay the bills, and for what? Most would say, in pursuit of their dream job. Even though in these seasons of life we seem overly busy and striving, it’s still a form of waiting. We are waiting for the dream job.

Relationships are really no different than waiting for that perfect job. People seem to have a much easier time in working hard for their dream job than in working hard for their relationship dreams. Sadly, an epidemic has begun of refusing to wait for something better than a mediocre life and relationship. No one is perfect, and no one has the power to be so, thus waiting for a “perfect” person is a ridiculous task. However, simply waiting for someone who shares common goals, beliefs and values as yourself will save you sorrow and bless you with joy.

Going back to the example of the ambitious employee, what if this individual was offered a decent job? It pays the bills and allows for a little extra. The job even feels enjoyable at times; however, the next month a job came available unbeknownst to them that would have fit their lifestyle perfectly. This new job was everything that they dreamed about while they were sitting through those never ending classes and gloomy jobs. Sadly, they missed the opportunity because they were focused on making their mediocre job succeed.  This employee stopped waiting for the perfect job and focused their entire effort into an average job that took all of their time without making them feel complete. This is not to say that diligence and hard work is an unproductive choice. The employee, under the circumstances made the right decision in working hard. The bottom line is that the employee was not patient. They did not wait for the perfect job.Don’t let your waiting process be a time of sorrow, or confusion. Stay open minded and grounded in who you are and who you can be in God. A relationship is far weightier than a mere career choice. Think about the effort you put into things that really matter to you. Do you do the same for your relationships?

 

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